Monday, September 25th, 2017 01:41 am
I just woke up at 1:01 a.m. So we'll just pretend it's still Sunday aka the-best-day-of-the-week.

Somehow, I managed to get out the door to church (wearing all black because that's what I'm like, topped with my crystal chandelier earrings) with my life-saving supplies that included my bottle of water AND the cute portable fan (prezzie from church-John) with a spray feature. Just one problem: I'd filled the reservoir but no water was emerging. I figured I'd let c-J figure it out. Which he did when he arrived (priming the pump needed a man's touch, lol). If I hadn't had that fan, I would not have made it through the service. Even simply sitting in the first pew, I had difficulty breathing. I have NO idea of how the choir was able to perform (energetically!!!). There were so many touching moments I'm thrilled I'd caught live, one of them being our preacher proclaiming Shana Tovah (Happy New Year in the Jewish calendar) before the three celebrants partook of apple slices dipped in honey. Have I mentioned (often enough) how much I love my church?

I'd been worried about being assigned a cab home, but the driver was very gentle with my damaged walker. He also had his A/C on full blast, so I enjoyed my ride home. Walking up the back deck stairs was torture, as the wooden railing was scorching hot. Nope, no desire to sit outside. I was just so grateful to be home where I could cool off and drink more water. I was actually surprised to write my review rather quickly. I guess I'm becoming more versatile in that aspect. And then I was able to collapse.

I wasn't even all that hungry. I remember having some Soppressata (Italian cured sausage). And more water. There was no news on TV, just stupid football, but I had the TV on CBS (also set it to record) for the premiere of (oy) STD. Obviously, some presumably professional entities don't realize that some show names will be reduced to their acronyms. And then I fell asleep, even though I was still somewhat hot.

I'm not hot now (wow) but need to eat something (yogurt?) before taking my pills. I figure I'll stay up for a little while reading and then try for sleep again. Luckily, I don't have any obligations Monday. I'll watch the first hour of ::snickers:: STD at some point. TTFN.
Sunday, September 24th, 2017 10:30 pm
Cartomancy: DEAR POWERS THAT BE, WHEN I ASKED FOR LESS OBFUSCATION AFTER THE VAGUE TAROT CARD, I DID NOT MEAN SARCASM.



Halloween Tarot: Page of Ghosts (Page of Cups)



Vintage Wisdom Oracle: Healing
Monday, September 25th, 2017 01:27 am
Dear Carolyn: In my childhood, criticism from my parents was the constant theme. My grades were never good enough, my room was never clean enough, whatever. As a result, I feel little to no affection for my parents now that I’m an adult, and I don’t spend much time with them or talk to them much. I just don’t like them very much.

However, some people who know this say I’m going to regret distancing myself from them when they’re gone. Do you think that’s true? Should I make more of an effort to spend more time with them now so I don’t regret it later?

— Criticized


Criticized: Your friends would regret distancing themselves, if they were in your position. That doesn’t mean you will.

So, no, I don’t think that is universally true that distance equals regrets.

However, I do believe that seeing parents as people, instead of just as parents, is a more useful way to determine how to adapt your relationship with them over time.

What you describe of your parents is a child’s view of people who, apparently, thought that being a parent meant being strict and teachy all the time. I agree with you that it’s a cold way to go, and tough to forgive, but there are other aspects of parenthood that could provide a fuller and fairer picture. Were their parents that way with them? Was the culture around them one of “seen and not heard” and “spare the rod” orthodoxy? Did they tend not to question things about life in general, their parenting views among them? Was one of them softer but not strong enough to counteract the other?

And: What did they become after their active child-rearing years were over? Did they remain locked in a cold orthodoxy, or did they bloom a little when the weight of responsibility was removed? Are they trying to get to know you now, or are you still 12 to them?

Do you know them all that well as people, or did you distance yourself effectively enough that your last real impression of them was formed as you fled their home after high school?

I ask these questions entirely without judgment. People have their natural, even reflexive ways of looking out for their own health, and kids of unhappy childhoods can even have this need as their central motivation. It makes sense.

But when you get to the point where you’re asking whether this is the right way to go, my inclination is to suggest that you keep asking questions and see where your inquiry leads you. If you don’t feel up to digging all that out, that’s reasonable. Your prerogative. It might also make sense to spend a few sessions with a skilled therapist.

And it might be liberating just to try, once or twice, with no great expectations, to talk to your parents with a different image of them in mind as you do it.

They’re people. Possibly kind of stunted people who meant no harm but had no clue. People who might have interesting things to say if you asked them different questions, and/or with a different objective in mind. Not “I want them to say they’re sorry” or “I want just once for them to be warm and welcoming,” but maybe “I want to see them how their friends do,” or one of my favorite suggestions from a long-ago chatter, “I want to approach them as an anthropologist would and see what I find out.”
Sunday, September 24th, 2017 11:25 pm
It's been an eventful summer. It felt like I had something scheduled (even if it was nominally restful) every day from the middle of July through the middle of September. Phew.

Now that the sun has slid past the equinox and the sky has filled with rain, it's time to turn our attention indoors. I'm therefore declaring this Saturday, September 30th, my first game day of fall. And hey, it's just a couple days after my birthday, so that's fitting.

As usual, bring games, friends, food, kids, drinks, and other things that might be fun. I've accumulated a few games over the last year or so that haven't gotten much play, so I'd love to give them another whirl. I've got a bunch of recently-brewed maple ginger spruce ale, so if you're not a fan of hops, you might enjoy this beer. I'll also have some kind of food going. RSVPs help me know how to plan accordingly.

My house is in the usual place. If you don't know where that is, send me an email (and join my games mailing list, where I include more details).

A very merry unbirthday to you!
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Monday, September 25th, 2017 12:35 am
Three things hold me captive )

We had some ambitious plans for Sunday that included possible apple picking or walking around downtown, but we also had a bunch of chores to do, so we ended up being somewhat less ambitious after watching the Ravens embarrass themselves in London in the first of many crazy football games today. We had a bunch of shopping to do, so we stopped at the mall and some local stores, walked around Washingtonian Lake, and fixed up some things around the house.

My parents had a friend over for dinner and invited us to join them; they ordered pizza, we brought cookies and Maddy, and we ate out on the deck. Then we came home and declined the one free hour of Star Trek: Discovery in favor of the DC football game against the Raiders; I generally try to avoid them but even the jerk of an owner joined the players' solidarity display during the national anthem. Some farm festival photos around South Mountain:


Fair Season )
Sunday, September 24th, 2017 11:59 pm
I Am A: Chaotic Good Human Paladin/Sorcerer (4th/3rd Level)


Ability Scores:

Strength-13

Dexterity-8

Constitution-16

Intelligence-10

Wisdom-8

Charisma-7


Alignment:
Chaotic Good A chaotic good character acts as his conscience directs him with little regard for what others expect of him. He makes his own way, but he's kind and benevolent. He believes in goodness and right but has little use for laws and regulations. He hates it when people try to intimidate others and tell them what to do. He follows his own moral compass, which, although good, may not agree with that of society. Chaotic good is the best alignment you can be because it combines a good heart with a free spirit. However, chaotic good can be a dangerous alignment when it disrupts the order of society and punishes those who do well for themselves.


Race:
Humans are the most adaptable of the common races. Short generations and a penchant for migration and conquest have made them physically diverse as well. Humans are often unorthodox in their dress, sporting unusual hairstyles, fanciful clothes, tattoos, and the like.


Primary Class:
Paladins take their adventures seriously, and even a mundane mission is, in the heart of the paladin, a personal test an opportunity to demonstrate bravery, to learn tactics, and to find ways to do good. Divine power protects these warriors of virtue, warding off harm, protecting from disease, healing, and guarding against fear. The paladin can also direct this power to help others, healing wounds or curing diseases, and also use it to destroy evil. Experienced paladins can smite evil foes and turn away undead. A paladin's Wisdom score should be high, as this determines the maximum spell level that they can cast. Many of the paladin's special abilities also benefit from a high Charisma score.


Secondary Class:
Sorcerers are arcane spellcasters who manipulate magic energy with imagination and talent rather than studious discipline. They have no books, no mentors, no theories just raw power that they direct at will. Sorcerers know fewer spells than wizards do and acquire them more slowly, but they can cast individual spells more often and have no need to prepare their incantations ahead of time. Also unlike wizards, sorcerers cannot specialize in a school of magic. Since sorcerers gain their powers without undergoing the years of rigorous study that wizards go through, they have more time to learn fighting skills and are proficient with simple weapons. Charisma is very important for sorcerers; the higher their value in this ability, the higher the spell level they can cast.


Find out What Kind of Dungeons and Dragons Character Would You Be?, courtesy of Easydamus (e-mail)

Sunday, September 24th, 2017 10:49 pm
The last few days we've had a record-setting heat wave, with temps in the high 80s and low 90s (right now it's 25 C/ 77 F AT NIGHT). My asthma is acting up and I have been feeling more sad than usual. I get this burning pain in my ribs and sternum and mouth. I've been napping during the day and staying up late, but I haven't been doing much with my time.

To get some good AC I went to the cheap seat movie theater tonight and saw "Step." This is a documentary about a Step dance team at a girls' high school in Baltimore. The film focuses entirely on black girls and women. Recommended.
Sunday, September 24th, 2017 10:55 pm
I've been doing less book bingeing and more reading of fic over the last month, which is probably, ultimately a happy balance for me.

Liberty and Other Stories (Prosperity, #2-4, 6) - Alexis Hall - ★ ★ ★ ★

A diverse series of stories expanding on the Prosperity universe, both before and after the events of Prosperity. read more )

The New Born Year - Kris Ripper ★ ★

I love this series, and I really liked getting to know Ally better, but I found this a difficult and unpleasant read. read more )

Full of Briars (October Daye, #9.3) - Seanan McGuire ★ ★ ★

I'm several books behind in this series, and figured this was a good way to dip back in. Because Quentin. Who is awesome. read more )

Gun To My Head - Dira Lewis ★ ★ ★ ★ ★

Reread. First read April 5, 2017. Second read April 6, 2017. Third read now, by which you might infer that I really fucking love this book. read more )

The Mystic Marriage (Alpennia, #2) - Heather Rose Jones ★ ★ ★ ★

I continue to adore this series. This second installment continues to follow Barbara and Margerit's lives, while expanding the focus to two characters who played a supporting role in the first book. read more )

The Element of Fire (Ile-Rien, #1) - Martha Wells ★ ★ ★ ★ ★

Reread. I think I first read this sometime in 2010.

This is a secondary-world fantasy set in the approximate equivalent of 17th Century France only with both sorcery and Fae creatures.read more )

Point of Dreams (Astreiant, #2) - Melissa Scott & Lisa A. Barnett ★ ★ ★ ★

In some ways the murders are the least interesting part of this book. They matter, and they drive the plot, but it's the thematic stuff going on around and in cause of the murders that I found most interesting.

This is a book about relationships, and the ways they are seen and controlled by society and societal pressures. read more )

Seven Summer Nights - Harper Fox ★ ★ ★ ★

This was not the book I expected it to be, but I quite enjoyed the book it turned out to be.

This is, as the cover copy stated, a just-post-WWII historical romance between an archaeologist and a vicar, both of whom came back from the war changed. It's about two men trying to fit back into roles and ways of life they no longer fit. read more )

Bound to Be a Groom (Regency Reimagined, #1) - Megan Mulry

DNF.

It's queer, kinky, poly, historical erotica. I'm pretty much THE target audience for this book. And I gave up at 13% read. read more )

Death by Silver (Julian Lynes and Ned Mathey, #1) - Melissa Scott & Amy Griswold ★ ★ ★ ★

This was a rougher read than I expected from the ad copy. Good, but at times decidedly difficult.

This is a queer, steampunk murder mystery, but that's not really what it's about.

What it actually is is a book about institutionally-sanctioned bullying and abuse and the different ways in which adult survivors of childhood trauma cope with their past. read more )
Sunday, September 24th, 2017 09:13 pm
This poem is spillover from the August 15, 2017 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by a prompt from [personal profile] dialecticdreamer. It also fills the "naked / vulnerable" square in my 7-31-17 card for the Cottoncandy Bingo fest. This poem has been sponsored by Anthony & Shirley Barrette. It belongs to the Shiv thread of the Polychrome Heroics series.

Warning: This poem contains some touchy topics. Highlight to read the warnings, some of which are spoilers. It features multiple references to past child abuse and neglect, social anxiety, financial anxiety, extreme body modesty, jealousy, shame, sex/gender diversity, creepy mannequins, visible scars from past abuse, unwelcome attention from Dr. G who quickly extrapolates the origin of Shiv's scars, unwelcome touching of Shiv by Edison who is too young to have learned better, lingering awkwardness from Halley's prior violation of Shiv's boundaries, and other challenges. If these are sensitive issues for you, please consider your tastes and headspace before reading onward. However, this is the beginning of the whole beach thread, so you need it to make sense of the later poems and the story "Family Stories" by [personal profile] dialecticdreamer.

Read more... )
Sunday, September 24th, 2017 06:50 pm
 I recently stumbled across Eclipse Phase, and the idea of a transhuman space-faring RPG really intrigued me. Has anyone else had experience running it? I haven't seen much about it online other than on their official forums.
Sunday, September 24th, 2017 05:37 pm
Flatware Dragonfly
Flatware Dragonfly
Corvallis Fall Festival

Maybe this is a new annual thing for us! Jenni and I repeated our 2016 Autumn Day Tip with a followup visit to the Corvallis Fall Festival. But as always with Jenni and me, it’s not so much the destination as the extended time that she and I get to chat. We could have done that anywhere. Still, participating in a special event just adds more fun.

At 10:00 am Jenni arrived at my house while I was putting my things in the car – so we were immediately ready to jump in and take off. It was a breezy, conversation-filled drive to Corvallis. My parking fairy opened convenient street parking just two blocks south of Central Park. It was 11:30 am.

As per plan, we walked over to Block 15. As if to celebrate our return, the waitress coincidentally seated us at the same table we had last year, tucked away in a corner upstairs. We were delighted.

Block 15’s Oregon Country Beef Burger was so good last year that I eagerly reordered the meal. I couldn’t decide on fries or the beef barley soup – so I got both. I ended up taking most of the fries home for an evening meal. As before, everything was delicious.

Lunch at Block 15
Lunch at Block 15
iPhone 6 Photo

I think it was about 1 pm when we finished lunch and began our return walk through downtown Corvallis. (I didn’t take any notes this year, so I can only guess on times.) We returned to the Starbucks at SW 4th & Madison, where Jenni got a drink; she also got cash from an ATM. From there we walked back to my car to drop off my takehome container of fries – and also my Icebreaker vest. The weather forecast was 60°F with a high of 66°F under partly sunny skies – but Accuweather and buddies lied. Bright sun. Not a cloud in the sky. I was dressed too warmly. During the week I’d been fighting the onset of a cold and had been uncharacteristically chilled, so I dressed conservatively. I should have worn short sleeves.

We walked up to the festival and did all the loops. The festival advertises 160 vendors, so it takes a couple of hours to get through the whole thing.


The festival has a nice variety of artisans and craftsfolk. Lots of impressive jewelry. Interesting photography (but nothing I’d put in my own house). Unique fabrics and clothing. Other facinating scupltures, paintings, and mixed media works. Jenni and I had a wonderful time absorbing the mix – as well as talking with the artists. Jenni bought some gifts for her friends, but I was much less noble.

Early on we happened upon one of my favorite ceramic studios, STILLFire Pottery. This year they had a number of bowls in sizes I wanted, so it was difficult to show restraint. I limited myself to three bowls – a convenient soup bowl and a small snack bowl in my normal blue/white style… and another shallow bowl similar to the dark one I bought last year. I love these bowls! I think my favorite is the soup bowl.


STILLFire Pottery Bowls

Sometime between 3:30 and 4:00 pm we headed back to the car. It was an easy jaunt from SW 7th St (where I had parked) over to SW 9th St. Unlike last year, there was no home football game this year, so we had no problems at all with traffic. I took SW 9th to 99W, and we again took the scenic route from Corvallis to Independence to Salem to Woodburn.

And like last year, we stopped at Woodburn Premium Outlet Stores and did some shopping. Neither of us make it down to Woodburn often. The day continued to be sunny and warm – just around 70°F – so walking was extremely pleasant.

When we were finished shopping, I took us home. We were back by 6:40 pm. We had talked non-stop the entire day, and I could have gone on for hours. I was energized. But we did have a lot of things to get done for ourselves over the weekend and had to stop sometime. My rare days with Jenni bring me great joy, and I savor the memories – and am still smiling a day later.
Sunday, September 24th, 2017 05:19 pm
NAME: Kimi
AGE: 28 (29 on October 3rd though)
INTERESTS & HOBBIES: Tom Hiddleston, Pokemon, All Time Low, 5 Seconds of Summer, Simple Plan, visual kei/J-rock, oldies music, writing, fangirling.
LOOKING FOR: Nothing special. I don't really mind because I'm accepting of everyone. :3
ANYTHING ELSE?: I lost the account info for my old DW. I think it was AdorbzFangirl or something. But yeah. I figured it was better just to start over. Keep in mind too, that I won't be very active. I'm pretty much limited to my dad's computer (on occasion) to my iPad Pro. My laptop stopped functioning properly, and if Apple can't fix it... it may be a while before I can get another one. :|

Oh! I forgot to mention that I'm autistic. There's a good chance I won't reply to other people's journals. It puts a lot of pressure on me and my social skills. I'll do my best to post on yours, but I expect the same in return. :3
So yeah.
Friday, September 29th, 2017 08:09 pm
Carefully cut out the superman logo. Carefully started sewing. Realized I'd carelessly put it wrong side up (that is, the side with the ink). Ripped out the stitches, flipped it - d'oh! Silly me, I should've flipped it when I drew it!

Well, it's done now. Thankfully, I expected errors and bought a lot of extra felt.

The funny thing is that all his classmates, their families just drew on the bags with Sharpies. His mom asked me to do it due to lack of time, but I can't draw! I even had somebody else do the stencils for me! So now it looks like I put in way more effort than anybody else (despite the fact that I can see all the errors glaring out at me), but really, I just can't draw. Cutting and sewing is a LOT easier for me.
Sunday, September 24th, 2017 05:04 pm

userpic=divided-nationOver on Facebook, a conservative friend of mine posited the question, “Someone, anyone… please enlighten me by pointing out the racist portion(s) of the following song lyrics:”, after which he quoted the Star Spangled Banner. I hesitate to respond directly on his post because of the shitstorm from the Trump-dittoheads that would ensue; instead, I’m responding on my forum.

First and foremost, the problem is not with the anthem itself, just as the fight against the Confederate statues is not about the specific statues, or the protests against the pledge are about the specifics of the pledge. The problem is with the underlying symbolism. Further, “racist” is the wrong term. “Problematic” would be much be much better.

So where is the problem? It is captured in the simple phrase, “Land of the free”. The problem is that our nation is not living up to that ideal.

Are we the “land of the free” when:

  • A black US citizen cannot drive through a white neighborhood without being pulled over, while a white US citizen driving through a black neighborhood is not hassled?
  • A brown US citizen cannot drive near the Mexican border without being stopped and asked about his immigration status, whereas a white US citizen driving near the Canadian border is not stopped?
  • An Arab-American US citizen wearing a hijab is instantly suspect of being a terrorist, whereas the white guy buying the nitrogen and ammonia is not suspicious?
  • When statistics show that brown and black citizens arrested as suspects by the police are more likely to be treated harshly, receive longer sentences, and be shown less lenience.
  • Our President criticizes black football players for not standing up and putting their hand over their heart for the National Anthem, when he has been recorded not doing so?

By the way, when y’all go to church, how do you show respect to G-d? You kneal.

We say we are the Land of the Free, but we don’t demonstrate it as long as we discriminate against people based on conditions that are not of their choosing: skin color, country of origin or heritage, religion, sex, gender, orientation. People are choosing to show respect in a non-traditional form, because that which is different must be respected as well.

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Sunday, September 24th, 2017 04:57 pm
I've been watching this really clever sitcom while doing the exercise bike. Sadly, I only have a couple of episodes to go for the first season. Why couldn't it be longer?

It is so rare that I like a sitcom, but this one is smart and funny, and the actors terrific.
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Sunday, September 24th, 2017 11:18 pm
Posted in full at: http://ift.tt/2fiWdfg on September 24, 2017 at 03:00PM

Mexico City Rocked by 7.1 Magnitude Earthquake, Weeks After Devastating Temblor:

Donate: http://ift.tt/2fj5VOD

Please take time this Sunday to donate to help our neighbors recover from the devastating earthquakes and hurricanes.  This charity has a 4 star rating and spends its money on the ground. And if you cannot spare any funds, please reshare.

This will be 1 of several organizations I will highlight today.

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