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elainegrey) wrote2024-07-25 12:45 pm
(ADHD)
I've gotten a hard back copy of the book Tiny Habits after reading the first few chapters as a e-book from the library. I wanted to write in the book and make it my "journal" for doing the work in it. I'm already doing things inspired by the book. I'll admit to understanding the general principals of needing prompts for behavior. One of the early ... challenges, i guess... was to use brushing your teeth as a prompt for flossing just one tooth, where the "just one" is to encourage you to see it as something you can do easily (quickly). This, of course, assumes that one can use tooth brushing as a prompt, to which, hahahahahaha. So, what i am doing instead is committing to getting up within five minutes of my morning and evening ablutions alarms and turning on my audible checklist. If i do that, i know i have the time to get things done, and the checklist is a series of prompts.
For the record, part of me resents this.I'm DOING something when the alarm goes off (despite the ten minute warning alarm in the morning). In the morning, i am trying to fit in my digital personal life into the hour or so before doing all the self care. I don't resent it as much in the evening, because i am tired and i know going later pushes me into the SO TIRED zone. I could spend HOURS each day doing the digital things i want and "need" to do. See above and communication responses.
For a large part, i think much of my previous "effectiveness" at being able to journal and read other's journals has to do with doing it during work. I am much more fire-walled between work and my personal life now (and am writing this in my "to do" list software). Yay, the extreme emotional turbulence that was part of work ten years ago is gone! I use more of my store of executive function at work which leaves it thin for after work. I find myself thinking about retirement more as i am aware of how much i spend at work.
Despite resenting the morning ablutions schedule, i'm also thankful that i have learned a way to do the things. Part of that time is a small meditative period, and i know i'm better for having those moments. There's not much in the schedule that's frivolous -- some potions applied to my face in a fantasy of holding off looking old. Having the schedule and the audio checklist means i get it all done effectively and make it to work on time.... And if i'm resentful about THAT, well, hey, i can go back to journaling at work.
Ahem.
The other thing Tiny Habits has inspired is a new attempt to address my stress eating. It can be comical, the number of times i go to the kitchen while writing a spec or some of my work emails. I don't want to ask/demand/force Christine to change because of me -- although it's an option if the stress eating were to be a significant health issue. It's not, so other things. The "have healthy alternatives" sort of works. Sort of. But i'm starting with trying to doodle around my feelings. One of the little A6 notebooks is now labeled "Feel the FEEL." Colored pencils, colored pens -- let's see if scribbling gives me the moment break when i want to walk away (and get a snack).
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https://www.amazon.com/dp/1523515279?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details
there's a bunch of them, I've personally seen this one, the paper is wonderful and the pages are beautiful
and hun, why are you so hesitant to ask Christine to adjust something if it negatively impacts you?
and floss picks are your friend LOL I have them stashed all over the place. I do not floss daily, sometimes not even weekly but my dentist thinks I'm AMAZING, I did it when I think about it cause there's floss picks all over the house in easy reach. (including the driver door of my car LOL which helped a lot more when I was actually working but hey at least they're there)
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