Entries tagged with mutual care

One of the questions in the original form was "What's your favorite type of distraction? (Sports, memes, weird TikToks, celebrity gossip, baby pictures, puppies, you name it) " as well a question about food and drink items.

On-line, it seems that it should be easy to share media, although some media is pay-walled. It seemed on the surface of it that it would be easy to get a list of ways to share media etc with people but the more i thought about it, the more complicated it gets. Not everyone uses the same music services, streaming services, etc. I don't know that it is really that easy to give a month of some random streaming service. Just because you know an email for a person, doesn't mean it's the email that they use for some random service -- or that they want some random service to know.

Then it seemed impossible. I think of mismatches like venmo vs paypal, or Apple music vs Amazon music. Maybe there are easier ways? Or maybe with enough options it gets easier?

I started a list at https://airtable.com/shrk2j28yuCHo2360/tblQOm9vYTioDL4ZX and you can contribute anonymously at https://airtable.com/shr7LqW1wob21Gbjr

Another thing i thought of is engaging with one's creative efforts. "Read my fan fic" etc.

I'm continuing to think about https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSejOaU3pjaAELZ3ai032ubt24GYTEsDRw3F4zBd95N2-Vh2wA/viewform and https://annehelen.substack.com/p/a-shortcut-for-caring-for-others -- a care guide for one's self.

I'm thinking of a list of conditions that have prompted wanting to care, and i'm pondering an ontology:

It seems there might be four sorts of social bonding and care responses, that can be prompted by wanting to respond to someone's need or can simply be motivated by care:

"Thinking of you" - a communication that should not demand any reciprocal response

"Want to communicate with you" -- minimally an asynchronous exchange

"Want to spend time with you" -- a need to schedule a compatible time for synchronous connection

"Want to care for you" -- gift giving, other efforts to provide ease

"Thinking of you" and "Want to communicate with you" -- for the Dreamwidth/LiveJournal communities, this begins with "comment on a recent post" to DMs to contact via messaging services (or Facebook, Twitter) or text message or postal mail. There's a spectrum of trust in contact points. I'm pondering how a community form could be structured to help with communicating communication channels when there is varying levels of trust.

I think all of these have some element that work for distributed, internet mediated communities and a spectrum of trust. But. But. Here are some questions....

Poll #28579 Care form questions

This poll is anonymous.
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: Just the Poll Creator, participants: 5

My trust and privacy needs when it comes to communication channels

varies person to person, and could not be captured in a form
3 (60.0%)

is about the same for all on my "access list" or a "custom filter"
3 (60.0%)

i am happy to volunteer i like text messages and then ignore someone's request for my phone number if i don't want the requestor to have that contact
2 (40.0%)

i am happy to volunteer i like postal mail and then ignore someone's request for my address if i don't want the requestor to know where i live
1 (20.0%)

frustrates me that others can be so trusting and my need for safety makes me seem different
2 (40.0%)

is not something i want to broadcast openly
2 (40.0%)

is not something i want to broadcast to my "access list" or a "custom filter"
1 (20.0%)

requires mutuality from the other person, i will share only if they share with me
1 (20.0%)

allows me to volunteer them to others
2 (40.0%)

i don't mind people asking if i have out of band preferences, and having a complete form response would be nice
1 (20.0%)

My 225 char annoymous comment on sharing communication channels

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