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I posted a photo on facebook of my dremel with the case open and all the bits, a bar of aluminum, five hose clamps, the cool extension cord thing Christine bought, and the goggles & breath mask.
Male Friend 1: Looks like the makings of some major construction. Or destruction.
Me: Dremel tool, a strip of aluminum, hose clamps, safety gear for face, shoes that won't protect my toes. Later, there were hammers. I won't claim to have the most elegant technique in fabricating from aluminum, but i now have aluminum hooks held by hose clamps instead of bent coat hanger wire+duct tape held by binder clips on my ad hock [crafty thing]
Male Friend 2: Any complications aside, you DO realize this makes you my Dream Woman...
Male Friend 1: You're high on my list too, right after [his significant other] with her Whitworth socket set.....
Me: I knew the dremel was a really versatile tool, but i'd no idea it had "make me blush" attachment.
I responded to Male Friend 1 with my enthusiasm. I was really delighted to fabricate the hooks and cut down the hose clamps and grind down most sharp edges. Christine petted my ego by saying things looked professional (way more so than the coat hangers and duct tape and binder clips, i'll agree).
The "Dream Woman" comment froze me up a little, but i was tired when i saw it. I wasn't going to deal with it. How to negotiate that? Just write "Blush"? I dunno. Then to have a follow on comment.
Sheesh. So, i was trying to craft just the right tone in the dual response, something light and funny and socially acceptable and not going into "complications."
And you know, nothing about my photo of the dremel and accessories is about my relationship status. I don't need to be told someone admires me as a -- Dream Woman? -- because i have a dremel.
I'm writing this OUT because i caught myself being mildly repulsed by the interaction and filing a mental note NOT to post photos like that again. Something like, "Ugh, it hadn't occurred to me that the tools would get that sort of attention. Don't post that again." NO. I will post photos of things that delight me. Because a photo of a pie or any of a zillion other things that delight me, might lead else someone to think "that's an attractive quality in another person" and they might clumsily articulate admiration.
Male Friend 1: Looks like the makings of some major construction. Or destruction.
Me: Dremel tool, a strip of aluminum, hose clamps, safety gear for face, shoes that won't protect my toes. Later, there were hammers. I won't claim to have the most elegant technique in fabricating from aluminum, but i now have aluminum hooks held by hose clamps instead of bent coat hanger wire+duct tape held by binder clips on my ad hock [crafty thing]
Male Friend 2: Any complications aside, you DO realize this makes you my Dream Woman...
Male Friend 1: You're high on my list too, right after [his significant other] with her Whitworth socket set.....
Me: I knew the dremel was a really versatile tool, but i'd no idea it had "make me blush" attachment.
I responded to Male Friend 1 with my enthusiasm. I was really delighted to fabricate the hooks and cut down the hose clamps and grind down most sharp edges. Christine petted my ego by saying things looked professional (way more so than the coat hangers and duct tape and binder clips, i'll agree).
The "Dream Woman" comment froze me up a little, but i was tired when i saw it. I wasn't going to deal with it. How to negotiate that? Just write "Blush"? I dunno. Then to have a follow on comment.
Sheesh. So, i was trying to craft just the right tone in the dual response, something light and funny and socially acceptable and not going into "complications."
And you know, nothing about my photo of the dremel and accessories is about my relationship status. I don't need to be told someone admires me as a -- Dream Woman? -- because i have a dremel.
I'm writing this OUT because i caught myself being mildly repulsed by the interaction and filing a mental note NOT to post photos like that again. Something like, "Ugh, it hadn't occurred to me that the tools would get that sort of attention. Don't post that again." NO. I will post photos of things that delight me. Because a photo of a pie or any of a zillion other things that delight me, might lead else someone to think "that's an attractive quality in another person" and they might clumsily articulate admiration.
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