It's hard for me to remember the work in did around 2008 to 2009: skimming a few journal entries where i recorded marvels that are common place to me now underscores for me how important it was for me to do that emotional work. Much of it was trauma from Mom. So, yes, much much work. I think i cried for at least a year. Thanks for acknowledging to me how that work has helped me now.
Mom spent her life writing in margins of self help books but never pushing through some of her defenses, the most significant of which was that my dad caused all her unhappiness. I think if she had ever trusted a therapist, a therapist would have tried to pull her out of her endless circling around. Reading the marginalia is so sad. I believe my sister has good insights to steer her away from the traps my mother was caught in and a willingness to go through the work.
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Mom spent her life writing in margins of self help books but never pushing through some of her defenses, the most significant of which was that my dad caused all her unhappiness. I think if she had ever trusted a therapist, a therapist would have tried to pull her out of her endless circling around. Reading the marginalia is so sad. I believe my sister has good insights to steer her away from the traps my mother was caught in and a willingness to go through the work.