An email to my siblings:
I'm coming out of a four months depression (essentially) and am getting back to my better self -- which means having some problems with procrastination. I had some insights this morning as i was thinking about my experience yesterday, and wanted to know if you experienced this growing up (and if it plays out for you).
Yesterday i had a "free" afternoon. I would be able to "get something done," and there are certainly long overdue things that needed to go done (*cough*the barn*cough*). My experience of procrastination certainly has some sense of dread, and what i realize this morning is that i have a hard time remembering a weekend when, as there was nothing else planned, our family moved on to working on a project all day-ish and was happily successful at the end of the day. What i remember would be that there would be fights in the morning, that eroded into the "productive" time of the day, that things would get done by the end of the day but there wasn't some glowing sense of successfully having done what planned, but a lingering frustration and failure.
I feel i've internalized Mom and Dad's fights before working on a project.
I'm not asking if you feel like you've done that or if you have procrastination problems, but do you remember the pattern of planning to do something, fighting, and then getting something (else) done, but not carrying through on the plans?
My guess about their dynamics is that Dad, having completed a work week of getting things done (invisible to Mom) was not ready to continue with the getting things done and was sabotaging the plans (probably because an honest statement of "I'm tired, it was a hard week," was unacceptable).
Sound familiar? Or is this selective memory on my part? I suppose it's the memory & lessons i've got, no matter what *yours* are, but i have a layer of grad school depression and procrastination that i'm currently disregarding.
Thanks for listening,
[your sister]
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