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[elainegrey]

My rhythms are all out. My laptop is gone to be fixed, so my morning laptop rhythm is all gone. Multiple instances of distressing news has distracted me and affected Christine. We have VERY different reaction patterns to traumas. Right now Christine is angry that college kids are being treated compassionately for an election trauma when she was rarely treated with any compassion. Since i was instilled with a culture of tough survivor behavior (Think black knight, "It's just a flesh wound.") i've had to learn self care, and so i can still get a great deal of vertigo in judging myself: am i being a lazy, work avoidant lump? Or is this reasonable self care? I'm still feeling guilty for taking time off work on Friday.

Christine's had to put up some shields, and her shields can be a little counterintuitive. That anger at others getting concessions is part of the shielding, and i accidentally knocked out that shield last night by creating a logical feedback loop in her thinking and self awareness.

My shields are different and what i most want to do is go bury myself in completing a gantt chart plan of next year's gardening and a resource map of available planting areas. I'm trying to decide what i think of various companion planting advice: do i believe the wikipedia assertion that marigolds should be separated from legumes? By how much?

Hmm https://deepblue.lib.umich.edu/bitstream/handle/2027.42/110135/Fagan_O'Halloran_Przybylski_Rentschler_2014.pdf?sequence=1&isAllowed=y

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[zlabya]

I'm much like you--wondering if I'm just being lazy by "self-caring" by sitting at home curled up with a good book/game app/Pinterest and of course Ivan on my lap or nearby. I do sympathize with Christine though and hope you both are weathering ongoing stresses.

I'm not sure about separating marigolds from legumes. I'm curious myself as I've often planted them near each other because of marigolds' anti-bug properties.

[elainegrey]

I found a dissertation that described how growing marigolds & legumes together produced a better outcome for both. So i'm going to just figure out happy locations for marigolds around everything.

As i put together my big-garden list, i realize how new world everything is: corn, squash, beans, potatoes, marigolds, peanuts -- all are from the Americas. (Apparently peanuts went from the area now Argentina to west Africa before coming to North America.)

[zlabya]

Oh, good! So I was not off base using marigolds around my beans. My memory is so crappy about so many things these last few years (thanks/no thanks to anxiety, depression and menopausal changes)