(mom and caa, elder care, f&f)

My heart breaks. Dad is in Florida with his mother, who celebrated her 105th birthday today. She has said no, she is NOT moving up to North Carolina to live with him. (This creates a storm of complications for us in finding a carer we trust to be with her.) He is depressed because of the rejection, the complications, and the fact she is barely eating and is just shrinking and fading away.

On a video call he shares this with my mother and I. "You are so good to do so much for her but you need to come home." Dad denies doing "so much" because there isn't that much physically significant work to do. "You need to come home." "I need you." "I am waiting for you to come home." Mom's impatience and anger comes through. Seven more days, six more nights.