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From a chat thread with my siblings and father, just archiving:
Me: So, i was looking through Mom papers and came across notes of me giving an ultimatum about Christine's and my wedding in early May (the same time N-- had chickenpox and was having exams). It appears Dad that you talked to [your mother] and [your step mother] about it, and N-- and L-- - you all were consulted as well. Was it simply that we wanted a much smaller number of people than Mom was planning? I have no recall. Just curious!
My brother: I don’t recall. Time travel into the memories of XX yo N-- (esp at that time ) is tough. My attitude would likely have been the smirking indifference of a teenage egotist (not proud now, tough to be on the business end of it). My more distinct memory was the impression of Mom being focused on the wedding when I was prepping for college and starting college. Don’t recall substance.
My sister: Same. Here are my memories: great excitement that you were getting married, mom wanted it to be lovely, [one cousin] and I would have matching dresses, miffed I have horrible acne and no boobs, and upset that my afterthought birthday cake was gross (chocolate with cherries soaked in a liqueur).
My brother: L-- would have been XX? I understand now that I would have been particularly focused on things I was focusing on as an XX year old exiting. I was ambitious and apprehensive and tunnel visioning as an ADHD carrot chaser would be. I was happy for you but not focusing on the home front. I have a clear and fond memory of running errands with Christine just before the ceremony (I remember the music in the car was loud but I forgot the band). I remember the planning thanksgiving in Edenton.**
I am not proud of the brashness of my remembered self, but trying to be honest about it. Running 8k at sunrise will do that
Dad: Wow! Was that 1992 or 91. My memories are more about our time at Fort Belvoir and planning or gifts. Do remember that any suggestions on my part wound up in the book if unread plans. Thought it turned out as a beautiful wedding. I was probably talking to my mother and [my stepmother] about an extra room…lol… as you read her stuff I truly believe you need to think it was written for her folks point of view… they were her judges .
Me: The extensive planning and organization she did to make it a lovely gathering comes through in this first bit of notes. It's possible the box contains other details that will clarify.
Thanks all for checking your memories!
Me: So, i was looking through Mom papers and came across notes of me giving an ultimatum about Christine's and my wedding in early May (the same time N-- had chickenpox and was having exams). It appears Dad that you talked to [your mother] and [your step mother] about it, and N-- and L-- - you all were consulted as well. Was it simply that we wanted a much smaller number of people than Mom was planning? I have no recall. Just curious!
My brother: I don’t recall. Time travel into the memories of XX yo N-- (esp at that time ) is tough. My attitude would likely have been the smirking indifference of a teenage egotist (not proud now, tough to be on the business end of it). My more distinct memory was the impression of Mom being focused on the wedding when I was prepping for college and starting college. Don’t recall substance.
My sister: Same. Here are my memories: great excitement that you were getting married, mom wanted it to be lovely, [one cousin] and I would have matching dresses, miffed I have horrible acne and no boobs, and upset that my afterthought birthday cake was gross (chocolate with cherries soaked in a liqueur).
My brother: L-- would have been XX? I understand now that I would have been particularly focused on things I was focusing on as an XX year old exiting. I was ambitious and apprehensive and tunnel visioning as an ADHD carrot chaser would be. I was happy for you but not focusing on the home front. I have a clear and fond memory of running errands with Christine just before the ceremony (I remember the music in the car was loud but I forgot the band). I remember the planning thanksgiving in Edenton.**
I am not proud of the brashness of my remembered self, but trying to be honest about it. Running 8k at sunrise will do that
Dad: Wow! Was that 1992 or 91. My memories are more about our time at Fort Belvoir and planning or gifts. Do remember that any suggestions on my part wound up in the book if unread plans. Thought it turned out as a beautiful wedding. I was probably talking to my mother and [my stepmother] about an extra room…lol… as you read her stuff I truly believe you need to think it was written for her folks point of view… they were her judges .
Me: The extensive planning and organization she did to make it a lovely gathering comes through in this first bit of notes. It's possible the box contains other details that will clarify.
Thanks all for checking your memories!
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