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Had a lovely lunch with Dad and my sister L to remember Grandmámá on Wednesday. A year ago she was the life of her 105th birthday party. Then she was tired and never really got out of bed again. She did flirt with the "ambulette" driver who drove her and my sister from Florida to North Carolina. Over Grandmámá's birthday last year, my sister and i were both providing Mom's care.
Much change.
Had a couple good getting things done days.
Saturday i was not well. Allergic reaction maybe, but to what? (Friday night my lower lip began to swell.... why?) I hate to think waking early to go see if we could see the green comet was a cause. The Bojangles French fries and biscuits we picked up on the way home were probably a bad idea. It was a gorgeous day outside, and i stayed in. I did switch many things over from the cancelled debit card to the new one.
Sunday i was pretty good, but very grey. Idid do yoga with my sister for the last of our four yoga 101 classes. L wants to keep going together. I waffled. Then i had a stern talking to myself about priorities and spending time with L is high on that list. Therefore yes to more yoga.
C and i talked a little about wills. Really ought to handle that sooner. I'm not sure what the state would do if both C and I died in a wreck. And i think C and i are really leaning towards giving the house to my sister, and not doing something "fair" like splitting it between our siblings. Part of the instinct is that my sister might keep the house for her kids.
I've had hyperfocus at work which was a bit of a pleasure but also makes not-focus things harder.
Tuesday there was a case of calling out a person in a particularly callus and careless way on a mailing list community that distressed me. I wrote to the called out person to offer what comfort i could. The moderator came down hard on the behavior Wednesday morning. I remained a little preoccupied with it and my distress. The person who "piled on" apologized, the person who attacked someone's motives has gone silent. The called out person replied and shared how they had just stepped away from the drama. I wish i could emotionally distance myself like that. The ADHD rejection hypersensitivity is probably in play.
Time passes so quickly.
Much change.
Had a couple good getting things done days.
Saturday i was not well. Allergic reaction maybe, but to what? (Friday night my lower lip began to swell.... why?) I hate to think waking early to go see if we could see the green comet was a cause. The Bojangles French fries and biscuits we picked up on the way home were probably a bad idea. It was a gorgeous day outside, and i stayed in. I did switch many things over from the cancelled debit card to the new one.
Sunday i was pretty good, but very grey. Idid do yoga with my sister for the last of our four yoga 101 classes. L wants to keep going together. I waffled. Then i had a stern talking to myself about priorities and spending time with L is high on that list. Therefore yes to more yoga.
C and i talked a little about wills. Really ought to handle that sooner. I'm not sure what the state would do if both C and I died in a wreck. And i think C and i are really leaning towards giving the house to my sister, and not doing something "fair" like splitting it between our siblings. Part of the instinct is that my sister might keep the house for her kids.
I've had hyperfocus at work which was a bit of a pleasure but also makes not-focus things harder.
Tuesday there was a case of calling out a person in a particularly callus and careless way on a mailing list community that distressed me. I wrote to the called out person to offer what comfort i could. The moderator came down hard on the behavior Wednesday morning. I remained a little preoccupied with it and my distress. The person who "piled on" apologized, the person who attacked someone's motives has gone silent. The called out person replied and shared how they had just stepped away from the drama. I wish i could emotionally distance myself like that. The ADHD rejection hypersensitivity is probably in play.
Time passes so quickly.
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- adhd,
- eventuality,
- f&f,
- health,
- observe