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Thursday, October 22nd, 2020 06:09 am
Daily journaler is seeking other daily journalers. I'm looking for other diarists that share some aspect of their daily life, whether it's limited to a narrow aspect of creativity or concern or is wide ranging. The diarist should be open to reading my entries and ideally is already reading the entries of folks in my circle.

ETA: Diarist should have high tolerance for typos.
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Thursday, June 29th, 2017 01:48 pm
Before tags, journal entry titles were pretty important to me, but since ....

Christine just showed me some video of a child in a New Zealand zoo kissing the glass separating her from a male lion. The lion sat back on his haunches and rapidly beat on the glass with his front paws. (The girl, unfazed. Some adult, "I think he's asking you to step back.") The caption described this as the lion "freaking out" with which i take exception. Cat owners know what a cat freaking out is like: this was not that.

So i muttered my exception, then i muttered about click bait titles, and then i declaimed THE WORLD IS COMING TO AN END.

Why do i care about click bait headlines? What offends me so? Maybe i should try titling my entries with click-bait style. There's no commitment to keeping the subject and the entry aligned with clickbait style titles, right?
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Wednesday, April 12th, 2017 06:55 am
Anyone have an account that can scan jar files for malware? Something like https://www.joesecurity.org/joe-sandbox-cloud? (If not, eventually i'll go through http://cleanbytes.net/malware-online-scanners and find a free one.) I want to use this LJ download tool instead of manually catching up on getting XML and CSV archives. It's not very suspicious -- a 2007 executable seems less likely to target a mac than one today -- but with so few downloads, i just want to be sensible.

If you have a better idea for a mac user, feel free to let me know. I suppose i can stretch my curl skills to figure out how to script a request with a cookie and form data.
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Tuesday, April 4th, 2017 11:54 am
Well, i clicked through the agreement page having read other's routes to some assurance. However, if you are posting on Dreamwidth, i've dropped you on LJ. I also dropped a whole stack of communities and folks who have disappeared.

If i dropped you, please feel free to let me know!

I need to make a post that points to Dreamwidth that's visible if you aren't logged in. I may start posting comments with my Dreamwidth account if your journal allows that. Haven't sorted that out in my head.

So, that's the latest administrivia.
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Tuesday, April 4th, 2017 09:20 am

I break the year up into seasons for goal setting. This spring is "getting a hold of myself" season.
pow pow bullets )
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Tuesday, February 28th, 2017 12:24 pm
For reasons, my last two posts didn't make it to LJ. That's been fixed.
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Saturday, October 4th, 2014 02:17 pm
Meeting has a form for "final affairs" and i started filling it out. When asked for special instructions, i realized i wanted my Elaine Grey community and my other communities to be able to come together at the time of a memorial. I pondered the virtual where of a digital memorial and i realized that a dreamwidth post is what i would prefer.

If i request that, however, how do i address issues of privacy with respect to this journal? This is what i've written up for now.

Have other folks done similar things? Anyone know of good practices that have been established? I don't think i have any protected entries with comments that the author may be concerned about protecting: do you think you've left such comments?

What to do with my journal in case of my death )
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Sunday, January 6th, 2013 07:35 am
Tags and Titles: when one uses the "export" function, http://www.livejournal.com/export.bml or http://www.dreamwidth.org/export , the tags are not exported.

This is a little maddening to me: the assistance in keeping tags a consistent vocabulary makes it a very useful source for data mining -- but i can't get at it easily.

Thus, i am ensuring that as of 2013, tags are in my title field.

I'm sure that someday i could figure out how to fetch the tags -- crawling the tag index is conceivable -- but it isn't really what i wanted to have to do.
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Tuesday, August 16th, 2011 10:32 am
I've just created a diaspora account under my Elaine Grey name. If you are on diaspora, please connect to me there. (Someday they may allow different names for different aspects, and then i will be overjoyed!)

If you're on google+ and frustrated with it's policies, i'd be happy to get you a diaspora account.
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Wednesday, April 13th, 2011 08:01 am
"Not enough time in the day," is my current feeling.

I do have more energy than i had last week. My doctor gave me a five day burst of prednisone to help with the itching, and has recommended Nexium as a H2 blocker that can be safely added to the H1 blockers like Claritin and Allegra. This morning i believe i'm feeling better.

Christine drove around yesterday and saw her surgeon: all is well. She's still keeping to a recline until Monday; gets decaf coffee on Sunday morning.

I've been mucking with twitter, and that's led me to reflect a bit on who knows about my Elaine Grey identity. I value the openness i can share things as Elaine Grey. It's not that i can't share them with my j-e- identity, but that in the many hats i wear, some of those roles demand discretion. As manager, as employee, as participant in different communities: i don't think it's dishonest to self censor. There's particularly a question of overlapping communities.

Christine's surgery, for example, is a place where i feel the need to self censor because of overlap. While there are people she trusts, there are also people on the edges of her interaction space who she doesn't: and with good reason. While we're out about her being transgendered, people who meet her accept her as female. (Some have recognized she's not cisgendered.) For folks who haven't really worked to understand cisgender privilege and other gender assumptions, the Surgery is a big deal. I've seen the cognitive challenge that happens when people who assume she's had gender confirmation surgery hear she hasn't. I recognize that while being out about this and challenging assumptions helps people along on working through issues of privilege, it isn't required that she has to do that work in every area of her life. It's right to allow her to choose her points of disclosure.

So partitioning is valuable. This is an easier case to point at than, say, me whining about workplace issues or my depression. But those, too are partitions.

In other news, spent time on the phone with Dad and L re my grandfather's situation. Need to call my Mom. My sister thanked me for my role as her therapist: i'm not sure that's a good thing, but i do think supporting them all as they more directly engage with the family drama is what i'm called to do.

I have a little nugget of mystery-feeling in my heart regarding this. I suspect it's pain over unrequited love for my grandfather that got packed up early in life. There's also emotional connections to my parents: visiting my mother's parents always triggered huge "I'm going to divorce you" fights between my parents on the return trips. I hid in books most of the time we visited. Pain and anger and nothing nice to say. I don't think i want to unwrap that.
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Tuesday, April 12th, 2011 07:30 pm
Note to twitter fans. Read more... )
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Wednesday, April 6th, 2011 05:49 pm
For all the folks who know me at LJ and are moving to DW due to the distributed DOS attacks: Administrivia )
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Wednesday, March 2nd, 2011 05:45 am
Could someone "into" Dreamwidth's process let me know how to post a bug? Because this is a line after a line break and it doesn't show up as a new paragraph. And this is a "new paragraph" to say the disable auto-formatting is on by default. I think if i turn it off i get new paragraphs on DW but not on LJ.
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Friday, February 25th, 2011 09:18 am
If there are news, questions, polls in your blogs from the past week that you would like me to know about, please point it my way.

Catching up isn't happening.
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Wednesday, January 5th, 2011 09:04 am
If i had a Evernote shared "notebook" -- which would be a webpage or RSS feed if you don't use Evernote -- would you be interested in seeing my random web clippings?

I'm pondering a split that is something like my current writing split: GIS/Creek/Arts/Tech links publicly available in a notebook i share on my Grey Cat blog(s), social/shopping/reading/eating/health in one i would share with the Elaine Grey folks (ie: YOU).



Other than some sleep interruptions and resulting bleariness, i'm in a good mood. Also, the sun is shining. (As it was yesterday, as my gloom of Monday lifted.) Correlation much?

The sleep interruptions included Christine waking me at 11 pm from my VERY sound sleep on the couch, having been lulled to sleep by really bad graphics displayed under a perfectly reasonable discussion of potential liquid water on Mars. I awoke enough to hears something about a worm, and then i was gone.

The next sleep interruption came towards the end of a night sweat cycle, a side effect from the prozac. (Or i'm aging.) I'm about ready to throw some money at this problem. The safety-pinned towel to the bottom sheet solution seemed close to ideal, except by morning all the pins had failed to be safe and had come unsnapped, one lost in the bedding. Maybe i should get diaper pins?

Breakfast today was another serving of super high-calorie, yummy, sister-prepared-and-gifted museli and eggnog zapped in the microwave.
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Friday, October 22nd, 2010 04:35 pm
Definition quickies. If you can think of something you'd like me to define that begins with an unused letter, let me know!

A - android: the operating system on the phone i bought in June
C - Christine: my spouse of 18 years
D - dooced: [via Urban Dictionary] to lose one’s job because of one’s website.
F - Friends: how Quakers refer to themselves, short for the Religious Society of Friends
G - grey cat blogs: one blog on more information science related stuff, one on more creative stuff, at a domain name i've owned since 1996
J - J: first initial of my first given name
M Meeting: how Quakers/Friends refer to the local community of practice; Minnow: how i refer to the company i worked for from 2001-2006, name established in the merger to avoid being dooced
Q - Quaker: i belong to a Yearly Meeting (qv) which is Unprogrammed (qv) and certainly supports Universalist (qv) members
U - Unprogrammed meetings: also called silent meetings. There are no clergy to shape the experience in advance, although there are strong practices and expectations. Universalist: a way that folks in traditional Christian culture express that there are many valid routes to the experience of the Divine (or knowing God, or of being saved, or participating in the Beloved community....)
W - whale: how i refer to the company i work for now, which swallowed the minnow in 2006. Name established in the merger to avoid being dooced.
Y - Yearly Meeting: the largest hierarchical witnessing body in the society of Friends. Although there are groups that are made up of Yearly Meetings, these larger groups don't have the formal ties of responsibility in Yearly-Quarterly-Monthly meetings -- now that FUM has dropped their claim at the insistance of Maryland's Yearly Meeting ....
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Wednesday, September 1st, 2010 06:20 am
Warning to Dreamwidth readers: this is mostly about LJ.

Before you could choose to have your own comments mailed to you, i used to copy some comments to a private post. I was thinking through things, and some comments were meaningful enough that i wanted to save them.

The new thing where you can crosspost comments to twitter and FB, though, seems a little odd. I won't be using it. I'm surprised its enabled on locked post comments as well as public. It does not seem that it is controlled anywhere. (However, one can have all of one's comments published to twitter or FB by default.)

I'm too tired to really critique it, and it deserves critiquing. The thing is, i trust y'all, so i'm not going to spend any more energy on this. If you move to Dreamwidth, you'll find most of my blog there, too, and i'm happy to read yours there.

Live Journal's notice and links. )
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Saturday, July 17th, 2010 07:00 am
On the dreamwidth dysfunctional modesty/impostor syndrome thread [i began with firecat's post and have not gone deep]:
rambling noodling that takes me into sorrow about grad school experiences, but mainly just rambles. )


One way Dreamwidth seems different from LJ is the social theory memes. Perhaps it's just a shift in my reading, but i've found less writing that makes me feel like someone's sharing their day to day life and personal journey, and more writing that feels like discussion group sharing. This seems to matter to me because i worry about the cost of participation: investing the time to be a voice in conversations to be heard. I'm pretty sure i don't have the time to participate at the level that one becomes noticed as a regular, so i lurk.

And when I hear that a primary solution to the problem of people underestimating women is to retrain women to behave differently in public, it kind of bothers me.


Another thread from this morning's reading is with respect to the general meme of people hosting threads (or creating communities) so other people can put their name in them and then other people leave notes saying nice things. I rarely put my name out there, for the two fold reason of fear (how will i feel if no one responds, how i will feel if someone responds "too much" on the "Valentine" themed posts) and a certain sense that if i wanted to be more engaged and involved with people, people would welcome it.

However, i am aware how difficult it is to gauge connection in the absence of comments, and i'm aware my writing style doesn't invite comments. (I'm not sure why that is, but i'm aware of it.) I'm not going to cross post this to LJ, in order to ask this: could you leave a comment if you read this journal regularly/semiregularly? Those of who who comment regularly, even if in odd time sequence, already let me now you are reading.

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Thursday, June 24th, 2010 03:53 am
Last night's post is locked and limited in readership on LJ: i don't know why i worry so much about being dooced, but i do. When i saw [livejournal.com profile] annie_r she pointed out that many of my posts are locked these days: it's a combination of wanting to limit readership when it comes to Meeting and work affairs, of wanting to balance my openness with discretion when it comes to others privacy.

This morning the Friends LGBTQ group had a message that linked to this American Family Association action alert: http://secure.afa.net/afa/activism/TakeAction.asp?id=374 Writing a message in support of this mayor's support of a Pride parade pulled me out of all my worries about my work performance and change, and had me listening to my heart to compose a meaningful message. That choice of listening to my heart helped ground me, but the motivation came from outside of me. Can i listen to my heart for me? I think i can, and i think it does happen when i journal.

Earlier this week, as i was asking myself what unintentional rituals i was missing from home, i lit on the rituals around waking Christine up. With the three hour time difference and our schedules, it is very hard for me to find a good morning time to touch base with her. I do miss sharing the morning cup of tea with her, and when i return i will likely be even more intentional about stopping my morning buzzing about to be present with her as she wakes up. There's also the somewhat more intentional ritual of sitting and waiting in the dark as i let myself wake up instead of rushing into the morning: that's been hard to carry over as well. In part, i've yet to feel i can really trust the alarms on the EVO. To be more accurate -- trust my setting of the alarms on the EVO.

The new phone is still a bit of a challenge. Reading on it is just fine: most websites seem navigable, etc. Data input is the most awkward bit. The Palm Treo's cut and paste seemed more reliable than the android's, and i'm not yet trained on the long presses needed to trigger the contextual menu, which is where cut and paste show up. I'm just beginning to realize how much i smash my finger into the screen unnecessarily. I'll learn a lighter, more accurate touch with time i hope.

Eating wheat is probably to blame for some of my physiological and energy issues: the trade off, though, of the energy it takes to track down food options that would suit me best, is reasonable on this conference trip. Moderation even in optimization. Thus, yesterday's farmers' market lunch is also this morning's breakfast: roma tomato baguette from La Farm Bakery, blackberries, and a raw milk "Hickory Grove" semi-soft cheese from Chapel Hill Creamery.